As technology continues to progress at a staggering pace, so are the ways that infidelity can occur and be disguised.

Most of the population has some form of mobile communication and as has some familiarity with text messaging. With this being the case, sexting appears to be the easiest and at times the most intimate way of expressing ones affection for another person without actual physical contact.

Sexting according to Wikipedia is: the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs/video, primarily between mobile phones. The term was first popularized in early 21st century, and is a portmanteau of sex and texting, where the latter is meant in the wide sense of sending a text possibly with images.

Therefore, I wanted to provide a couple of Red Flags to help couples identify ways to determine if their significant other has the propensity for sexting.

TOP 7 SEXTING RED FLAGS

1- Has their mobile phone password protected.
2- Enjoys taking photos using their mobile phone.
3- Uses text messaging as a general form of communication.
4- Regularly utilizes social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google , Myspace, Qzone, and Renren to name but a few.
6- Has a mobile account with unlimited text messaging.
7- Has a web camera on their laptop and or computer.
Communicates with old girlfriends/boyfriends over the phone and or through social media sites.
*PLEASE NOTE: Identifying 1 of these issues does not necessarily mean that sexting is occurring, however the more Red Flags you've identified the more likely sexting is occurring.

TIPS TO PREVENT INFIDELITY:

Lastly, here are a few tips to avoid fertilizing an environment that breeds temptation:

1 COMMUNICATE OFTEN!
o Work on communication skills. IE- Ask your spouse what they believe you can do to communicate more effectively.
o Communicate your concerns when you are not angry
o Seek the services of a marriage counselor or church pastor to address any communication disagreements
2 AVOID HANGING OUT AT BARS & CLUBS
3 AVOID SEPARATE ACCOUNTS -(This should not be tolerated)
o Shared banking
o Shared mobile phone
o Shared passwords to email accounts.
o “Every cheating spouse I’ve caught as a private investigator lived their lives as if they were single and had 1 or more separate accounts”.
4 AVOID SECRETS
o Your spouse should be able to answer your phone, look through your purse/wallet/phone/computer and hear any conversation you have over the phone without restriction.

In most cases, I would always recommend contacting a Private Investigator who specializes in infidelity cases before you decide to snoop around your significant other's phone and or computer. However, most people will ignore this advice and do it anyone, therefore should you find yourself conducting your own investigation please remember that discretion is key. If you find evidence and plan on confronting your significant other with this evidence you will undoubtedly create more problems than you can imagine.

Talk to a professional before asking any suspicious questions and or confronting your significant other. It is imperative that you have all of the facts and also have a plan that goes way beyond just confronting your lover.

Lastly, as a California licensed Private Investigator we have the experience and software needed to discretely the factual evidence you need. We can also help you identify the best software should you decide to do it yourself...